Self-Confidence Busters

March 18th, 2010 by Kristin Kopp

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Mistakes and failure are bad.
I’m not good enough.
Change is difficult.
I’m not important.
What makes me good enough or important is having people think well of me.
Nothing I do is good enough.
I’m not capable.
I’m not competent.
I’m inadequate.
If I make a mistake or fail I’ll be rejected.
I’m a failure.
I’m stupid.
I’m not worthy.
I’ll never get what I want.
I’m powerless.
People aren’t interested in what I have to say.
What I have to say isn’t important.
It’s dangerous to have people put their attention on me (something bad will happen).
What makes me good enough or important is doing things perfectly.
Conditioning: Fear associated with criticism and judgment.
Conditioning: Fear associated with not meeting expectations.
Conditioning: Fear associated with people putting their attention on me.
Conditioning: Fear associated with rejection

If only I were smarter…
If only I had more education…
If only I’d worked harder when I was younger…
If only I was more good-looking…
If only I hadn’t passed up so many opportunities…
If only I… (you fill in the blank)

We need to be able to face…